How to Educate Child?

Hefen

How to educate child? It is a big and deep problem. Maybe most of us are facing or will face it. Of course there are many answers for it and different people have different ideas for it. I just want to show my opinion through some examples I experienced.
My sixth aunt has a son who is five years old. He is the nastiest child I have met in my life. He always plays with himself or his old brother. No one else wants to play with him because he is so easy to tear and cry loudly. When he tears, he will hit the person who make him cry with everything he can get, such as stones, sticks etc. His loudly crying made people crazy. His action made people angry. But we have no way to deal with him, just keep a distance away from him. Why does he become such a “bad” boy? I know the answer. His mother, my sixth aunt, loves him so much deeply that any little damage to her son is not allowed. She gives everything her son wants. I once said to her, “You love your son too much.” She didn’t really understand me and answered to me, “If I don’t love him now, he will not love me in future.” “You are pampering your son! It is not a good way to bring up your son. Do you know you are hurting him, not loving him? If it continues, he will be a really bad boy.” I felt very pity that she didn’t listen to me.
My seventh aunt also has a son who is six years old now. He is also nasty but very lovely. People like him because he is very polite. Every one wants to play with him. He always comes to my home to play with me when I am at home. He is a brave boy. He dares to play with everyone, even strangers. Once I asked him some questions:
“Is there anything do you fear in this world?” I asked.
“No.”, he answered.
“Do you fear you father?”
“No.”
“Do you fear me?”
“No. I don’t fear you, but I fear you won’t play with me.”
“Do you fear your mother?”
He smiled and said, “Yes, a little.”
I know he fears only his mother because his mother doesn’t allow him to do any bad things. If he did, he will catch it or even get a thrashing.
According to the two examples, I get a conclusion that we should be strict with the children. It is a foolish way to dote on children and indulge their every whim. Otherwise it will produce exactly the opposite results.

Cinderella

Thank you for your good advice...