Communication is A Bridge to Heart

孙玮玮

Communication is A Bridge to Heart
--about the film＂Babel＂

   Several days ago, I watched the film ＂Babel＂ in the writing course.It tells a series of stories happened in 4 countries: Morocco, Japan, America and Mexico.On the surface, it was a gun that pushed the movie forward. But in the deep sense,all conflicts were caused by lack of communication.


   If there had been communication between the Moroccan police and Adhboum, Adhboum’s older son wouldn’t have died. The police were driving toward Adhboum’s home to arrest him while Adhboum and his two sons were on the way to escape. When they met on the halfway, the police quickly got off the car, took out their gun, shoot at the three people, without giving any chance for Adhboum to explain. Adhboum’s innocent older son was shot to death.


   If there had been communication between the Mexican nanny Amelia and her employer Richard, the misfortunes of Richard’s two kids would not have happened. Amelia wanted to leave for a day to attend her son’s wedding. But Richard who was in Morocco at that time ordered her to stay at home to look after his kids and hanged up the phone in a hurry,ignoring Amelia’s request. Amelia had no choice but to take them along with her to Mexico. It was deep night when the wedding was over. The two kids had to leave, so Amelia’s nephew who had already drunken drove them to the US. When they were being checked by the American police at the checkpoint, the conflict began when the policeman was suspicious that two Mexicans with two white kids in a car at such a deep night. Amelia’s nephew soon lost his temper and rushed off the checkpoint. To get rid of the police, he threw Amelia and the two kids in the desert. The three people walked a long way till the morning, but still did not walk out of the desert.Exhausted, Amelia decided to leave the kids waiting for her back and herself to keep on going to ask for help. Amelia finally stopped a patrolling car and asked the police to rescue the kids. But the police did not believe what she said. After her continuous begging, the police agreed to search for the kids. Luckily, the lost kids were rescued.


   If there had been communication between the Japanese father and his daughter, the daughter could not have lost her mind to do some crazy things. The girl was deaf and dumb, living in a world in which she was not being understood by normal people. Her mum was the only person who would listen to her. Since her Mum committed a suicide, she became more and more restless, because no one really understood her inner world. Her dad was always busy with his own affairs ignoring his daughter’s psychological change. The girl felt helpless and confused, so she wanted to find a man to understand her. But she simply thought that to make a man understand her is to have sex with him. She tried to lure the dentist and the policeman who was investigating her dad involved in a case due to the ownership of the gun, but was rejected. At the end of the film, the girl leaned against her dad’s shoulder and cried.


   If there had been communication between the husband and wife- Richard and Susan, the wife would not have been shot. Richard was in deep sorrow after his little son’s death. But he did not utter his feeling to anyone. He chose to escape from his family to ease his sadness. But Susan mistakenly thought that Richard was deserting the family, and she tried to save her family. That’s why Susan followed Richard to Morocco. It was in the Moroccan desert that the couple underwent a terrible experience and finally got along with each other.


   When the movie was over, I kept on thinking of the real world. There are so many misunderstandings caused by lack of communication. Sometimes when misunderstanding appears, we take no action to make up for it. Is it because that it is not easy for us to exchange feelings with each other or that it is childish in the adult world to show our true feelings or that we have learned to protect our fragile heart from so many heartbreaks? Sometimes there is no need to make a long speech, few words and a simple smile can also easily eliminate misunderstandings.


   Last summer holiday, a cold war between my parents and I broke out, which lasted more than a week. That was the most serious one. One night, I was watching TV. Mom was making the room. Dad was busy with something else outside, and my younger brother was doing homework in his room. I was watching Korean TV series which I like most. Somewhat Mom began to complain that I was inconsiderate. In her eyes, I spent all days on TV series without sharing any housework and totally become one who had no ambition. I turned back her words but I found that it was useless for me to argue with her. She was trying to make me seal mouth with her authority, so I stopped arguing and kept silent. But she soon lost her temper and ordered me to go to sleep. I sat there unmoved until she turned off the TV heavily and angrily. The next day, Mom and I did not say anything to each other. I was waiting for her to apologize to me as usual. Because I thought that she was doing wrong to me. I prepared nearly every lunch materials and washed clothes when Mom was busy. I watched Korean TV series because it really made me relaxed. It did not mean that I had no ambition. She was too stubborn to listen to my explanation. But to my disappointment, Dad also joint mum, he also did not talk to me. They said some words that really made me disappointed. If your family did not support you and attack you, you will be mad. I was so angry at their misunderstanding that I decided to go on fighting with them. The method I took was to keep silent. I hoped that they could realize their wrong doings from my silence. But my silence did not work. They told me to reflect myself. I became furious and felt helpless because I could not break away from their power. As days went by, I gradually still myself, but I still did not break the deadlock first. I grabbed my poor self-esteem hard. It was Mum who broke the silence first; she apologized to me for her bad temper. I stayed calm and told her that I was an adult now; I need respect and support from my family. When outside of home, not all people respect you; some people hurt you and embarrass you on purpose.I am strong enough to endure all these but I don’t know whether or not I will go to extremes when my family do not understand me. After talking with Mom, we fixed our relation and returned back to be a happy family.


If Mom and I did not listen to each other after the quarrel, there will be no understanding. If there is no communication, two hearts will never come close. If there is no manmade distance among people, how happy we will be in this wonderful world.

[ 本帖最后由 孙玮玮 于 2008-10-21 16:32 编辑 ]

Cinderella

  But we are human beings, and where there are two men, there is misunderstanding.

Cinderella

good for you to think of all this. anyway, we can try to eliminate misunderstandings between each other. sometimes silence works when there is a quarrel. sometimes we need to talk our hearts out to each other. sometimes we just have to wait and show our sincerity. Wisdom is needed in our communication. And sometimes we just have foes with no reason.