Long Distance Love

王婧雅

    Love, is always believed to be the most beautiful and romantic thing in one’s life. Just like many poetic saying go as: love brings ecstasy---ecstasy so great that one would like to sacrifice all the rest of his life for only a few hours of this joy; love relieves loneliness---that terrible loneliness in which one shivering consciousness looks over the rim of the world into the cold unfathomable lifeless abyss.
Yes, indeed. Love does make you feel satisfied and important; love can bring great happiness and relieve your loneliness. However, have you ever thought about what’s the situation like when relating to long distance love? It seems there is something special in this kind of relationship.
    Distance, to some degree, makes love more valuable and reliable. Being not always physically there for you, you can understand the importance of both your love and lover in a more mature way. But, most people doubt this kind of relationship and wonder that can it really last for a long time? Admittedly, you can keep contact with each other through letters, short messages, QQ or you can call your partner once or twice a week even if you too can’t meet half or one year. Unfortunately, when you miss him crazily or when you really feel deep lonely and depressed, you just lose your intellect, your reason. It seems any kind of communicating means, now, cannot convey your tone as well as your true feeling as you really want to express. At this moment, it is so easy to cause misunderstanding: you may ask thousands of why, why your lover seems does not understand you at all? Then, are you sure you can be bearable enough and just let this situation pass easily?
    Similarly, unhappy trifles or small misunderstandings do exist between you two in daily life. You’ll find these, could be easily solved if your lover is physically here, may turn to be great obstacles for you both to conquer if he is far away. Just because you can’t hear his voice, his comfort, his explanation, you can’t feel his feeling, his emotion, his love, you even can’t see his eyes from which messages from the very bottom of his heart can be read, let alone touch his hands and receive his warm embrace. Then, are you sure you can be calm enough and solve them with your brain?
Still, I am sure, and, I do believe.
    Under such circumstances, why not try to control yourself and tell yourself: “it really doesn’t matter. Just like the road under our feet is not always flat, our life is not always smooth. One or two stones appearing occasionally can just be regarded as the rich colors added to our life”? Since you two choose to love each other, then what really important is future---the bright future of you two, not just enjoy every day’s sweet now. Since you two have the courage to accept love from each other, then what really necessary is to live happily for each other, dream together, fight together and strive forward together, not just waste every minute to suffer the unbearable pain of missing.
    Under such circumstances, why not be more understanding and tolerant? Nothing and no one in the world is perfect. Now that you love him deeply, please respect him and don’t require too much. Change your position, you may happily find that he has done far better than you expect to! So always believe that he has given, is giving and will give you all his heart and love.
    Now, dry your tears and be happy, for there is one person at a certain corner in the world, willing to share all the happiness and sorrow with you, quietly and silently…one day, you two will meet and not depart with each other any more. Together, create your own life with the ability you’ve gained. Suddenly, whether you have realized that after so many special tests and experiences, your love is indeed unique and more valuable?
    So don’t disappoint your love!
    In long distance love, if love, please love deeply…


[ 本帖最后由 王婧雅 于 2008-10-22 17:12 编辑 ]

Dorothy

"Near, far, wherever you are, I believe that the heart does go on." from "My Heart Will Go On".

王婧雅

I do believe...

Cinderella

I can feel, in this article, something special....

Love for love's sake, not for reason's sake....

Just as love usually turns out to be habits to rely on each other, so long distance love sometimes becomes a habit of longing, longing for something not so concrete in real life, hence, often, another love for another man in real life.

If love has turned to be sth. you have to stick to, sth. you have to tell yourself to hold fast to, love is not love in its original meaning. Why not let go and possess a sweet memory of the past?

王婧雅

Thanks so much for your comment~~ hehe, but I think that you may misunderstand me, I just tell a fact that do exist in the long distance love relationship, as well as some difficulties or obstacles appearing in it. And all of it is from my own experience and my deep thought. As for me , I think both we two don’t and will not disappoint our love… heihei.

[ 本帖最后由 王婧雅 于 2008-10-25 21:48 编辑 ]

Cinderella

Don't be so sure heihei

never forget "the only one everlasting truth is that there is nothing that will not change." I'm not disappointing you. Just tell the truth.

and I didn't misunderstand you. I was also showing my view on the topic. The word "you" is only used for convenience.

王婧雅

I see...
Thank you so much, my dearest Mrs Geng~~~
I will always keep your words in my mind~~~

[ 本帖最后由 王婧雅 于 2008-11-3 22:36 编辑 ]

Cinderella

You're always being so kind and considerate