Sons and Lovers

Eternivan

The theme depicted in Sons and Loves by Lawrence is not an answer but a paradox. He believed only if man and woman interact with each other achieving a balance both physically and spiritually can they become real humans. But he couldn’t find out how, because when he was writing this autobiographical novel, he was also suffering from the paradox rather than solving it. The premise of why the parents of Paul couldn’t obtain that balance is the paradox existing within their spiritual and physical aspects. The mother is rather intelligent while the father is only physically strong. So the father is more likely to be a loser than the mother not only because the mother could benefit from the love she has granted her sons, but also she is more knowledgeable. And a human like that is richer in adaptability because she can think out any idea feasible for the change of her circumstances.
But the author seems to concentrate more on the psychological process during one’s growth. So we can spot the changes when Paul has a special love for his mother, and when he attempts to find his love. So when a boy is restricted inside the home, he tends to have a preference for his mother. But when he grows older, his love is about to get rid of the parental bonds and he’s going to spread it to the world. Lawrence must have been in great anguish so that he was persistent with these aspects of life. But surly it is a choice. I am not expressing my critiques against its limited insight into the world. But sometimes, maybe we could transfer some of our attention to the environment, even though you are not aimed at writing some naturalized poets or proses. I’m proposing that simply because sometimes the deeper you dig in, the more complicated the problem would be. But if you can distract yourself, maybe it seems not quite essential for us to fix that problem. Just follow your heart, grow stronger and harvest happiness, which I think is a right for everyone, despite the identity.